By Klew

I am going to the SPCA today to get another cat. Isn't that what women do when
they resign themselves to being alone for the remainder of their natural life? (as opposed
to their unnatural life!)

Unfortunately things did not work out with CPT K and we both agreed that they never
will. We wished each other the best in future endeavors and went our separate ways.
I know, I know….if you scroll down, you will read something similar but this time, there
is no turning back just moving ahead for both of us!

Breaking up is an eye opening experience for me. During a break up most people see the
fault(s) of the other person and focus on those faults. For me, I focus on the incompatibility
issues and the focus is on ME. (Imagine that! LOL) I reflect on how I can turn a negative
part of my personality into a positive one. Do I need more patience?
Do I need to be more empathetic? Do I need to listen more? I don't analyze to make me a
better "girlfriend" or "partner". I analyze to make me a better person.

Some people break up with someone and think that they chose the wrong person and consider
the time spent with that person a waste or the decision to be with that person an error in their judgment. They deny the feelings that they had for a person and re-invent the past.

Every man who I dated and eventually broke up with was the right person for that time in my life.
I liked them; I loved them and I would never deny I had those feelings. They added to my life even though they are now subtracted from it.

What I experienced in each relationship made me the person that I am today.
(If any of my exes are reading this…they will be thinking….I helped make her a Neurotic,
Obsessive, Compulsive, Flighty, Capricious woman?). I never regret any relationship I was in
because I had the opportunity to learn what they already knew and do what they already did.

With all the warm fuzzy memories I have from my past relationships, there is still one cold hard fact…
I have come to realize that I am the Alpha Female of my home and there is no room for an Alpha Male. (There is room however for a Beta Male but I already have one in fish form).